Category: storytime

  • Adjusting until a version of myself erodes…!

    Adjusting until a version of myself erodes…!

    A submissive mother,
    A intractable father.

    Often were the fights,
    More often they were physical…


    A bruise here,
    A cut there,
    The eyes puffy from crying,
    from under them peeked a reddish-blue bruise,
    haphazardly done, uneven cover-up it seemed…


    But,

    A question remained on my mind…!?


    How did they end up sharing the same bed each night…?


    Writer’s note

    Later, he would end up having his way and being physical with her—
    After that him profusely crying,
    clinging to her bare body,
    like a newborn,
    rubbing his face in her chest,
    And,
    she held him in close,
    until he felt asleep…




    3rd person’s pov

    This became a regular happening,
    he would come home angry—
    angry on someone,
    or something that didn’t went his way
    and,
    in a fit of rage,
    A hand would be raised,
    A loud smack would resonate within these walls-
    Sobbing would be heard later,
    along with them tears would start to flow,
    in a single sweep he would hit her once again,
    telling her to shut up,
    and bring him food…


    Taking the support of the wall,
    or a drawer she would slowly get up,
    but,
    before she could stand on her feet,
    he would get up once again,
    grab her by her shoulder,
    pressing his thumb firm into her joint,
    turning her low-pitched sobs,
    into silent screams with tears,
    due to the extreme amount of pain,
    after that he would throw her,
    into the direction of the kitchen,
    where she would go and heat food for him…


    If it was a little cold or too hot,
    he would throw the chair back,
    yelling at her yet again,
    and those tears would start to roll again,
    sometimes he would throw the plate in her direction,
    not worrying if it were to hit her,
    her arm,
    her face,
    her eyes,
    no matter where it went;


    Often the neighbors heard her—
    her cries of help;


    Initially people would wake up,

    Bang our door late at night, Come to her rescue,

    But now,

    it was such a common happening,
    that they wouldn’t even bother to get up,
    much rather go out and look outside…!


    Every other day screams would be heard,
    Her sobbing and His screaming—

    Terror roamed the house,
    and none was there to stop it,
    stop any of it;


    As soon as he was done eating,
    he would go into the bathroom,
    clean himself up,
    and sit on his side of the bed—


    Scrolling his phone until a faint shadow of her entered the room for a brief moment and then went into the bathroom;


    He would curiously watch her from the side of his eye going into the bathroom,
    then she’d come out with a bucket of clothes,
    which she would take to the terrace to hang them on the ropes that were connected to poles on either side of the rooftop…


    Returning to their room,
    she knew,
    what she would have to do,
    to ease the pain that he had,
    even if she wasn’t to blame at all,
    not even a little bit…;


    On coming down and locking the main entry door,
    then their bedroom door;


    It was a big room,
    but not a spacious one,
    on one wall was a TV,
    in front of it,
    was the bed,

    There was a cabinet that has their essentials, Another cabinet sat in that spacious room that made it even more cramped,

    In it were bottles filled to the brim with color transparent and gold like…!
    Surrounded it was by walls colored in blue,
    A pale blue color,
    flakes of which were peeling off and felling on the floor;


    An effort she made each day to clean them,
    but another scream he roared,
    not to use the broom at night,
    as he snatched it from her hand and told her to get ready soon…


    In a fit of paralyzing fear,
    she hurriedly picked it up,
    and kept it in the corner of the room,
    away from his sight as he found it very unappealing—

    Before coming to bed,
    she hit the light switch off,
    and sat on her side of the bed—

    Before laying down,
    her hand reached up the drawer,
    and from it came a box,
    which had various creams and ointments—


    She stared at the box for a moment,
    because it had a mirror glued on it,
    seeing her bruised up face—
    Remembering a smile that was once her identity,
    Now, none of it was left,
    not even an essence of it,
    as she opened the box—


    Taking out Vaseline for her hands,
    Boroline for her cracked heels,
    and some other over the counter medicine for the bruises,
    which she had an abundance of,
    after a good 15 minute she was ready to lay down,
    but,
    her problems were far from over…


    As soon as she laid down,
    his tantrums started,
    rolling on his side of the bed,
    grunting,
    crushing his teeth,
    all sorts of irritable behaviors,
    But,
    she knew what was coming,
    after 10-15 minutes,
    when all went silent,
    you could hear him panting,
    and after that,
    those short breaths,
    turned into little sobs,
    knowing this was a usual behavior,
    his usual behavior,
    she didn’t instigate him for a couple of minutes…


    After 15-20 minutes passed,
    she held out her hand,
    and placed it on his shoulder,
    knowing,
    he won’t subside until it happens,
    and,
    because she doesn’t want to get hit yet again,
    she starts something she doesn’t like even a single bit of…


    As she pulls herself towards him,
    grabbing his back,
    in an effort to comfort him,
    after being a literal punching bag to him—


    He wanted to be comforted,
    He wanted closure—


    “Look at the audacity,
    look at the situation life put me in…!” She though in her mind…


    First I have to beg for mercy,
    and then please the same person;


    He treats me like a piece of meat,
    uses and then throws me away,
    only to torture me again,
    the next day,


    “Why,
    Why do i have to submit to him…?!

    I thought…


    Maybe, being from a poor background is the cause—


    I don’t have people—
    my people backing me


    I was told to adjust,
    and adjust some more,
    until his comfort was met,
    and mine was ruined till there was none left of it…!


    (The rest will be continued tomorrow…)

    Cheers 🥂

    Love Waakiye 🤍

  • Wilted flowers(survivors pov…)

    Wilted flowers(survivors pov…)

    A calm day it was,
    It was normal,
    Nothing happened out of the ordinary;

    But within myself was brewing,
    a constant turmoil of anger,
    Hatred for self,
    And a will to return to a state that was better than this one;

    A calm day it was;

    At work,
    The stress was usual,
    Un-usual for someone who was new,
    The pile up of responsibilities,
    The lack of accountability on other’s part,
    And all of the blame came to me;

    If something wasn’t ready it was me,
    If someone wasn’t satisfied it was me,
    If something skipped my ever so busy mind,
    It was my neck that was pressed;

    Neck deep in stress I was,
    And all I wished was for a safe recovery,
    But every day,
    Every single day of the week I had to go back there,
    And watch pieces of my peace,
    Turn to ash;

    A calm day it was;

    It was a day similar to yesterday,
    And the day before too,
    But,
    Something changed;

    My sight rose,
    For the first time from the white strip along the road,
    that I walked on daily;

    In a puddle that formed after the rain I saw-
    “My dead eyes”,
    Those dark circles from many-many sleepless unpaid night shifts,
    And in a corner I found a reflection of a rose,
    As my sight rose and I tried to look at it;

    I heard people say it was beautiful,
    Never seen before with these two eyes,
    I saw in essence why people loved it
    And used it to show their love and affection to someone they cherished;

    As I locked my gaze onto the flower,
    The color red,
    Same which bled through these wrists once;

    It looked so precious,
    That I wanted to take it,
    But separating it from its origin would cease its existence;

    As I got up,
    After taking a picture,
    I looked at it daily,
    Adored the way it looked,
    Thanked the powers that blessed it to reach my sight,
    And walked on my white line;

    A calm day it was;

    And I found my reason to continue-
    “Wilted”,
    Dying from the very source that gave birth to it;

    On staring at it,
    I found myself within it;

    Essence lost,
    The meaning with it,
    Without having something to look at,
    Just like I found no reason to survive anymore back then;

    I found myself walking on the white strip alongside the road,
    with no will left to live,
    once again;

    A calm day it was;

    I walked on the same path,
    And now I looked at the remains of what was once the greatest sight to ever see,
    I saw the same rose crumpled up,
    Shrivelled like a prune,
    Sitting in dirt along with the leaves and dry waste on the side of the road;

    The sight made me angry and helpless at the same time,
    As I marched on the same white line,
    To the work that took my will to live even more;

    A calm day it was;

    A calm day it was,
    As I woke up an hour before,
    Tried to contemplate the day that I am going to have ahead,
    To prepare myself for the torture that I had to endure,
    But this day I woke up without any fear,
    The wilting of the rose gave me an example,
    A path not to be taken,
    But an idea that germinated as soon as the rose wilted;

    A calm day it was;

    It was as I looked above me,
    A blue coloured sky,
    Sunlight peering through it,
    Blessing my eyes,
    A wish to live this day,
    A day more,
    Just like the rose,
    Which beautified the world,
    And continued to till it’s end;

    As I got ready for the day,
    I took a bath,
    Ate my full,
    And then left my house,
    As I walked on the white line;

    Once again,
    I came across the plant that gave me hope,
    And looking at it,
    I found a miracle,
    A new bud taking birth;

    A calmer day it was;

    I looked at it,
    Each day with care,
    while I was walking on that white path,
    A new flower bloomed within a week,
    And a new cycle began;

    A good day it was,
    Giving me a new will to live,
    Teaching me that even after going through a whole lot,
    A new beginning takes place,
    And we all learn to live,
    Trust ourselves and try to adapt when things are against us;

    I went in the day it bloomed and approached the boss,
    With my demands and expectations,
    Failing to match it would mean my termination,
    A smile was wiped off their face,
    And a little was on mine;

    Within a day or two my demands were met,
    My hours were reduced,
    I started to arrive a few minutes before time,
    And leave on time,
    Nothing more nothing less;

    A beautiful day it was,
    As I began to learn my worth,
    processed my life accordingly,
    And began to live life on my term;

    A beautiful life it became…

  • Planning my next few months…!

    Planning my next few months…!

    What is the biggest challenge you will face in the next six months?

    Hey…!

    I hope all of you are doing well…!

    The last nights prompt took away a lot of things that I wanted to say today…!

    🙈

    But, after a long time a prompt has come in that I haven’t answered and this has given me some ideas…!

    And a break from me posting my unusual stuff that I write…!

    Coming back to the prompt

    Biggest challenge that I will face in the next six months

    It’s a bit crazy how the world moves, because up until beginning of the year 2026;

    I didn’t have any concrete plans, they were still to lay low, work hard in the shadows and come back out with more power in a year or two…!

    Making this year of struggles and winning some personal battles with myself and things that hold me back…!

    Until, the marriage of my sister was decided in the month of April…!

    For which everything has sprung into action and there are things happening that are done by me and taken into account to guide anyone who comes to me in the near future for help on how to manage or do a programme like this one…!

    There will be many things that will happen and they will change my viewpoint on now to view people, their behavior and also how those who will sit in our blind spots and fill the ears of our relatives and question how we were able to afford these things…!

    Everything will happen…!

    Including us missing the presence of our father as all of this happens…!🥲

    A huge lump that all of us carry within our hearts and can never ever seem to fill…!

    Otherwise it’s all good and future will be the witness to all that’s yet to come…!

    Cheers 🥂

    Love Waakiye 🤍

  • Real life problems here in India…!?

    Real life problems here in India…!?

    Another day of already answered prompts telling me to go into my partially written saved posts…!

    For those who don’t believe here’s the proof that I can provide you…!

    A screenshot with all the prompts answered…!

    If you stay with me, you will be safe…!

    These are the exact words that left his mouth when I told him that I didn’t want to go with him…!


    Set aback I was, before I could say anything as his words once again filled the room…!


    “There are many who are ill mannered who will tease you, belittle you, call you names, maybe touch you inappropriately and what will you do then…?

    Who will you call out to…?

    Who will you look back to for help…?

    Will you cry out for help…?”


    Don’t you think it will be a terrifying experience…?

    And you won’t be able to move or even make a cry of help when something bad happens…!


    You don’t even call it out when you’re surrounded by people you call your own, because you think they’d think of you in the wrong way…!


    And you think you can go alone safely there without me…?



    His words cut deep,

    But they were true, I should have left early and made all of the necessary arrangements before I planned to travel there, even if it were to travel all alone…!


    I know this seems weird, A lot of dependence on a person, But what if I told you it was the absolute truth for me…?


    Last week another girl just like me was picked up by goons as she was going back home from school and she was assaulted and later left on the side of the road(literally to die);

    Until a passer-by recognized her and shouted to attract more people;


    The already distressed parents ran as they weren’t able to lodge a FIR,

    Denied were their basic rights just because the presiding officer assumed that she must have ran away from home due to some tension or stress from her parents…!

    They also brought them shame by telling them to their face and all those around them that,

    She must have ran away from them with her boyfriend and they must have planned to marry each other…!


    As soon as they reached along with other police officers after an already pre decided sum was received by them in a form of bribe and they were looking to pay a part of it to the family to settle the matter;


    They said girl was still alive and confessed the name of the people that were in that car because they belonged to the same town;

    And they loaded her up in their police van instead of an ambulance and drove off towards the hospital…!

    The parents of the girl stood there and after a while they shook themselves to consciousness and found what had happened…!


    They paddled their way to the hospital but their daughter was declared brought dead;

    The parents also died as soon as they heard the news…!


    As the hospital staff decided to change her to remove all of the blood soaked clothes,

    They began the investigation and found conclusive evidence that it was infact a sexual assault and this would;

    Should be a criminal activity;


    But those so called enforcers of justice came empty handed when she was laden into the police jeep and gave up on the drive towards the hospital,

    Or,

    She was deliberately killed on the way to not get a witness testimony…!


    The words still ringing in my mind,

    If you stay with me, you will be safe..!


    Would I ever be safe, until this mentality stays that I need someone to feel safe

    And when I am alone I will—

    I should feel unsafe…


    Only when there’s someone around me I’ll feel safe…!


    Isn’t this mentality broken enough to push women back into the place they worked so hard to crawl out of…!


    Cheers 🥂

    Love Waakiye 🤍

  • The problems with the budgeting system and a need to be saved…!

    The problems with the budgeting system and a need to be saved…!

    Write about your approach to budgeting.

    Hey…

    I hope all of you are doing well..!

    The same routine followed today waking up at 2:30 and going back to sleep around 4:30;

    But today something different happened, I didn’t write much but I was able to relive the previous day, the entirety of it within a span of 20 minutes, as I tracked my moments, all of the places that I went yesterday—

    All the people who I met and all the payments that I made—

    Everything in its entirety I was able to remember like a movie played right in-front of my eyes…!

    This is something new and something I haven’t done before in a long time…!

    But after doing that,

    I wrote something that even I feel worried about…!

    I titled it “Save me…

    You’ll find it at the end;

    Coming back to the prompt

    My approach towards budgeting

    I do believe in budgets but at the same time I find them very much constricting and something that I often fight with towards the end of my month…!

    Well a chunk of my pay goes into household expenses and the meagre left with me almost covers my monthly expenses…!

    I’m not happy with the place I’m in right now, but not having a father figure in my life brings all of the responsibilities on my shoulders;

    So I have to be available to those who may are in need like my immediate family, and when I pull back(I often do…)

    It’s said that it’s not like what your father would have done—

    And when that words ring in my ears, it feels like those people were in a habit of mooching off my father and there’s a place where I draw the line…

    I’ve told the remaining members in my family that anything related to money(like giving it to someone else…) shouldn’t happen no matter the circumstances…!

    Because we have been the leverage people take and then forget that we helped them in any way…!

    A brief walk through my family’s broken history…!

    (Khair…)

    A budget happens, money moves into savings, the remaining money moves like water to cover expenses and some times some money is grabbed from my savings…!

    The basic crux of my life these days—

    Until some sort of stability comes in which don’t know when, but a hope still exists within this little mind of mine…!

    Cheers 🥂

    Love Waakiye 🤍


    No I didn’t forget what I wrote this morning…

    And here it goes—

    Save me

    Save me,

    Save me from this torment that exists around me,

    Save me from the will of this world that surrounds me,

    Save me…!


    Save me from the person that lives within,

    Save me from the voice that speaks on its own,

    Save me from the voice that tells me to commit these atrocious acts;

    Save me from the vengeance that roams in my mind,

    Save me from the realisation of those acts I commit under the guidance of the voice,

    Save me from the temptations that my eyes come across each time I look at a screen or a person living and breathing,

    Save me from the person I become when I see someone helpless and can’t stop until I take advantage of their helplessness;


    Save me from the acts they did under the pressure to be free from the things that bound them,

    Save me from seeing them once again,

    Save me from doing something irreversible to them,

    Save me from taking their lives after doing what I did to them,

    Save me from the fact that I woke up comfortably the next day,

    Save me from the fact that I don’t remember who came to me to take their lifeless bodies away each night;


    Save me from reliving the next day again,

    Save me from myself—

    Yet again;

    Save me….

    ~fin~



  • Chipped fragments of patriotism…!

    Chipped fragments of patriotism…!

    Are you patriotic? What does being patriotic mean to you?

    Hey…

    I hope all of you are doing well…!

    Another day that I woke up at 2:30 and wrote something in my notes app and fall asleep yet again at 4:45; waking up again with my alarm at 8 am in the morning…!

    I hope to live on this routine…!

    Because the time around 2:30 to 3:30 are becoming the most optimum time for me to write and think because I’m all alone at that point of time and no one distracts my thinking or my thought of process…!

    I’ll add at the end what I wrote this morning…

    Coming back to the prompt

    Patriotism and its meaning to me

    First of all, the patriotism is on an all time low because of the way this country is being handled;

    The way the so called elected officials are weaponising the religious beliefs of a said community to spew even more hatred towards each other, causing conflict within them each and every single day and making it their main goal of their election campaign…

    Do let me know,

    Have you ever heard someone say in India ever before—

    “हमारा धर्म खतरे में है…!”

    (Our religion is at risk…!)

    We’ve never heard that in our lifetime ever before and we won’t hear this ever again once this party loses all of its grip and goes away for good…!

    Well,

    A country where acts of terrorisms happen and the lost lives are used as a weapon of getting votes, the people here are either clueless or don’t care about the direction they’re taken in…!

    The deals accepted by our said prime minister to accept USA and Venezuelan oil at prices higher than their counterparts and then welcoming him like he was involved in negating world war 3 shows the hypocrisy of the whole government and its constituents…!

    And working on a law that any army retired personnel cannot release a biography or a book until 20 years of retirement challenges all of the basic ideas that define the crooked state and the mishandling of our resources…!

    And today’s prompt asks us for patriotism,

    You cannot revive something that is taken away from our eyes and being chipped away each day and only fragments are being seen by us every passing day until there will be none…!

    A vision into patriotism for our country,

    India 🇮🇳

    Cheers 🥂

    Love Waakiye 🤍

  • Deteriorating state of our country and waking up at odd hours…

    Deteriorating state of our country and waking up at odd hours…

    Have you ever unintentionally broken the law?

    Hey…

    I hope all of you are doing well…!

    A warmer morning this one is and I woke up at 2 in the morning with cold sweats, and turned on the fan, doom-scrolled for a while, turned on my tab and watched a few episodes of Daria and went back to sleep around 4:30 and woke up yet again as my alarm rang at 8 in the morning,

    And I’ve felt more refreshed than ever;

    Maybe this intermittent sleep schedule is the way to get more of my creativity out,

    Because I remember writing something about close friends who ditch on me at the moment I need them, but I have stood up for them various times even at odd hours…

    Maybe this realisation was very much needed to distance myself from such people in my life and this realisation couldn’t have come at the right time as may a people I considered close missed an important date in my life;

    Instead of two who reached out to me;

    (Khair…)

    Coming back to the prompt

    Unintentionally breaking the law

    What are we talking about here tbh…!

    I’m making this post from Delhi, India where the people don’t see the red lights before crossing—

    The assaults on women are on an all time high-

    There are more than 50 people including men, women and children going missing who can’t be traced even by the police each and every single day—

    Rules are broken left and right and today due to mahashivratri;

    Truck full of people and their dj sets will blare music all throughout the day wherever they go and cause noise pollution throughout the day-

    Can you ever tell such people that the faith exists within their bodies and doing a pomp and show disrupts other communities too,

    But if that is said it would cause more harm than good—

    Each day there are numerous cases registered and some are cleared just through under the table deals or by paying off the victim or their surviving family—

    A lawless state we live in here,

    Let me not tell you about speeding or illegally cutting of the lanes that these blinkit drivers and e rickshaw drivers make 🫩

    And even I’m not someone who is pure amongst the people who are covered in grime-

    I’ve paid my way out of problems too, that were caused by breaking rules like speeding, or other illegal activities(let’s stop it here)

    Because that’s the easiest way to get away from any problem when you can pay someone and they make it disappear…!

    Money works wonders even in overcoming the hurdles in bureaucratic procedures and makes our lives easier instead of letting our files sit and collect dust in government offices…!

    Because this is India…!

    (मेरा देश बदल रहा है…)

    (My country is changing)

    And becoming an even more greedy, selfish and corrupt one just because we have normalised this sort of thinking and they don’t work unless they are fed their rates…!

    A deep dive into our state of operations to the world…

    Cheers 🥂

    Love Waakiye 🤍

  • A destiny made through these words…

    A destiny made through these words…

    If there were a biography about you, what would the title be?

    Hey…

    I hope all of you are doing well…!

    I woke up this day with some lightheadedness, and stuffy nose, I knew this was coming because as soon as seasons change, I get sick no matter how much i take care of myself, no matter if i drink cold or hot;

    Just this once when February crosses into march, I will get the same type of sickness every year, it also happens when fall mixes into winter…

    I think I’ll watch another day and if the conditions don’t improve, I’ll pay a visit to the nearby doctor…!

    Coming to the prompt

    Title of my biography

    Well, these words have come into my life as my saviour because they were with me even when I was all alone,

    And

    On finding no one to talk about the waves of emotions that I once found within myself, I took it to pen and paper and the story continues ever since and each day I find something new,

    Maybe a new way to view this world or a new perspective in which I can place myself in someone’s shoes and imagine the world through their eyes…!

    And because these words made me who I am,

    I’d title it—

    A destiny made through these words

    To a new vision that waits for me…

    Cheers 🥂

    Love Waakiye 🤍

  • Attempts to break my routine and my first computer…!

    Attempts to break my routine and my first computer…!

    Write about your first computer.

    Hey…!

    I hope all of you are doing well…!

    A gracious Sunday is upon us and within a few hours all of this day will be over 😂…

    I’m not kidding, as we sit on our bed comfortably wrapped in a blanket all cozy, when we will wake up from our sleep it will be around 12 and after a few minutes of trying to wake up; we’ll actually feel like waking up and then run to the bathroom to take a shower and get ready for the plans that we made during the weekdays…

    And it will be around 1 in the afternoon and then we’ll leave the house travel to where we need to be…!

    The daylight is only left for another 5 hours or so and then the worry about the work that you have to do will set in…!

    And prepare yourself for the week ahead—

    All chaos;

    Until you hit the bed and wake up on the Monday morning…! 😩

    With the same expression as I made above because you have to live another week like the one you just spent last week…!

    Well that is the life most of us are living right now; a sense of dread comes with living this monotonous so closely looped life which makes it extremely hard to break your cycle…!

    But that’s what we have to do,


    Break your routine each weekend,


    Well at least try to shift from your monotonous routine if you go to a specific coffee shop each day and get the same drink, tell them that you want something else the next day, maybe a different flavour of coffee or switching the coffee to tea someday…!

    Breaking the routine is one of the things that helps me think that I’m not in a continuous loop of time; where my choices differ each time making me think that I took a different thing that week and helping me remind that I’m not trapped in time…!

    Enough chitter chatter…

    Coming back to the prompt

    My first computer

    Well, I came from a joint family so there was nothing called mine, it was always our and our collective interests were seen and usually the elders needs were prioritised and their words were acted upon as usual…

    But we were kids and we found it to our use as we used to play games and watch videos on YouTube until we got conscious and we started to use it for school work and surfing net to find things that were needed for school/college work…!

    And in 2022 I got myself a personal laptop which I used a whole lot in the year and up until 2025 starting…!

    After that I got myself a tablet and a couple of heavy devices like a Oneplus 12 and an iPhone which practically made laptop of no use up until this point…

    Well there are people who will say that laptops and pc’s are still in use and I don’t deny that; there are things that are done there that aren’t available on these handheld devices…!

    So they’re clearly not redundant, not for me not for everyone on this earth…!

    Well when I have to move data or factory reset one of my phones I usually back up my data on laptop which makes owning one a crucial thing for someone who shifts devices once every two years or so…!

    So their use is very much alive in my life and stays within my reach all the time…!

    Cheers 🥂

    Love Waakiye 🤍

  • What One-Word Answers Taught Me About Marriage

    What One-Word Answers Taught Me About Marriage

    A topic that started with a single answer of my own but ended up as a WhatsApp status of mine—

    Giving me answers from the whole world(All of the people who were keen enough to chip in…!)

    The answers were variable,

    There was sadness too;

    Some were just supportive,

    Some went out of their way to give me a clear representation of how and what they thought and why…!

    And I coerced some to talk to me by questioning their answers…! 🙈


    One of those answers was a Compromise…!

    Knowing who it came from I already knew the reason why they chose this answer…!

    Because it’s not a happy-go-lucky world all around us;

    There are things,

    Certain factors that force us to stay in a single state in life or in marriage,

    Which makes someone take the blame and become one to compromise…!

    A cruel and hard state to be in but when things aren’t what we planned, we choose the next best thing for those who are around,

    the kids and the existence of a family

    (Happy or sad it doesn’t matter…)

    A compromise happens…!


    Another one was mutual understanding and respect for each other’s opinions…!

    Yup- Seems clear just on the surface;

    It means pushing each other in directions that differ yet cross paths when a common goal is in sight…

    A common goal that helps in building each one of them or prepares them in such a way that the outside world can be a witness to it sometimes;

    The other times it’s something that benefits them mutually;

    But when those paths move away,

    And a space comes in between them where they express each other in their respective spaces away from each other individually;

    When push comes to shove,

    A union forms where they back each other until the very end…!

    This mutual agreement is when things are not how you individually planned,

    Yet you stand with each other and save the other one when they fall…!

    That’s the point of mutual understanding and respecting each other’s boundaries…!


    One of the common mentions was

    Being understanding, respecting each other as individuals and providing support…

    It might seem like this is an extension of the above one but;

    This splits into a different path even if it starts from the same initial source…

    Being understanding means that you have to let them be,

    Sometimes you have to caress them into your arms,

    Sometimes you have to go away and stay away for a few days until realisation kicks in…

    (an answer to me…)

    Sometimes you just have to walk away from them leaving everything behind and not looking back at it,

    There are phases and you have to understand your place in them and walk away when your image in it has diminished or reduced to nothing…

    And when that isn’t possible,

    Disgrace is felt…

    A bitter feeling is felt about oneself when one’s existence is not acknowledged by those who are around you…!

    Respect for each other is needed,

    You have to be respectful towards each other,

    It’s not that your wife or your husband can be an ornament that can be made fun of whenever the room feels silent;

    And when this behaviour isn’t controlled;

    Hatred for them grows,

    And the person falls in their own image making them smaller and letting more disrespect in before it balloons to a point that it pops with an explosion oh so loud,

    That it becomes deafening…

    It’s not possible that everyone is doing fine all the time,

    And they need support,

    Sometimes a hug,

    An embrace that blows away all the screams, pains and provides a space where you can shed tears and be your true self;

    And when that happens you want to be with that person more…

    Sometimes you just see it even when they don’t tell you;

    There are subtle hints that they don’t speak as much as usual,

    Their face shows a different emotion,

    They hide their sufferings behind a mask and you see the cracks happen,

    And acting on your hunch can save them;


    Space/healthy boundaries

    Whatever it might be,

    There can be a Mangal-sutra or/and a ring, bichua for your toes or your attire or just plain old vows;

    They signify basically the entire world of marriage apart from the legal paperwork that becomes a part of the tax benefit, law and order or any other ways you declare to the world that you’re married…!

    Before you had a space and in that space, you let people only if you wanted,

    But after marriage, that space becomes common for both and even if it isn’t a drastic change;

    There is a significant one where you learn and try to make a shift in self and when that doesn’t happen you have to be vocal about it;

    Because even if you tied your knots,

    Sometimes they just open and flail and when that happens,

    You watch them take shape into something that they truly are or were…

    Yes, this also means you get to see their true colors and if things don’t seem the way they were before;

    An interjection should be made and the tough questions should be asked…!

    Because it’s better if you find the answers to the hard questions as early as possible instead of making it dread your life dread later…!

    Sometimes taking a back seat,

    Or taking a stand and telling No…!

    But,

    That doesn’t come until you endure a little bit;

    And with that can come an accusation,

    Which questions the incident that sparked the change,

    Even if it means that you could just fill to the brim and it poured over,

    And suspecting eyes look at you with question;

    Walking away from it might be a last option…


    Friendship…

    Oh to be friends before being anything else;

    It makes life after even more fun,

    You make jokes and give each other pain in your stomach when you just see something funny,

    And continue adding onto that joke…

    Or,

    When you see someone tell a lie, and you actually know the whole story and you look into each other’s eyes and there is an instant sense of connection and knowing the BS the other person is spewing…!

    Because you can’t seem to keep the information to yourself;

    But that comes with a price.

    Sometimes a piece of information is told to you in confidence and that slips out of their mouth because you told them that making you a loose-mouthed person and later that person will look and think twice before telling you anything…

    A double-edged sword;

    Finally my answer,

    It’s not something that you might think at first but

    According to me,

    A fulfilling marriage exists when one person likes the other person more…!

    This isn’t just because they want to sleep with them and then go away, like a one night stand…!

    They do it because they like them for who they are,

    They have seen them at their best,

    Their worst,

    When they were sad, happy, broken and every other emotion,

    But still chose to be with them till the very end,

    Significance of likeness from the bottom of their heart but not tolerable enough to accept all that the other person does…!

    Here I haven’t mentioned love;

    Because love is selfless and selfish at the same time…!

    Some compromises come within love,

    Where one adjusts themselves until they aren’t the same person they were before they met them…!

    Because the fear of being away stays within their consciousness,

    Sparking change and an altered person after the change called marriage…!

    @waakiye