I asked him on a serious note because I thought he was joking to me about the statement he just said…!
“She owes me intimacy,
because she is my wife…!”
He repeated himself in that Delhi metro coach that had AC running and cold sweats started to form on my head and my back,
thinking on how many levels he was wrong…!
I asked him to repeat because I thought I heard him wrong…!
You heard me right the first time…!
This was one of the reasons I married her,
I was physically active before and I asked her if she was——
She said she wasn’t;
But,
that doesn’t mean men don’t have any needs…!
———
The words that he was spewing from his mouth made me realise how big of a mistake I made in choosing him as a friend,
A brother who helped me get through some tough times and I did the same with him;
But,
How did all of this escape my observation…?
I thought to myself!
How did I let such behaviour pass through my scope?
Did my mind automatically filter this behaviour,
or——
did it avoid bringing up such things because It knew what type of answers it would receive…!
Must have been the latter…!
Because I never remember bringing up girls/women on any topic to him…!
We debarked that metro and I asked him to join me for a quick snack…!
As we sat in Burger King at Rajiv chowk and ordered burgers and drinks;
And,
I asked him yet again…!
Bhai,
you know that your relationship or your married life cannot hinge on intimacy right?
It felt like he was about to choke on his burger and I advised him to take a sip of his cold drink;
He told me something that shook me to my core,
“There are needs that I have——”
Cutting him I said,
“What about her,
Her needs or her own choices…?”
Just because you married her,
it doesn’t mean that she owes you sex…!
And nowhere it says,
that your needs are above hers…!
He laughed that evil and psychotic laugh that a person does when he thinks he’s bigger than anyone and everyone is beneath them…!
————
When I married her,
I paid it all off on my own,
And,
Didn't demand any dowry——
I didn’t ask for a single penny,
and it was their choice to give me a small car and some furniture;
Maybe they thought it was enough,
but,
the fathers of daughters give their daughters each and every thing,
from small to big like fridge, AC, TV and many other things…!
But,
they thought a small car would be enough if I said no…!
Who even has a small car in these times…!
I was looking at him in horror as this dumb fellow of mine was travelling on metro because the thar that he bought after selling off their car was too big to bring where our office was situated…!
All it did was collect dust by the evening and each morning the cleaner would clean it…!
I was looking at his face as he was chomping down his burger and was onto the next one and occasionally sipping on his drink…!
And I came to the realisation,
This grown a55 dude was a man child who was a puppet with the old ideas that boasted teaching women their place and getting the most out of a father who just gave their daughters their whole worlds
to such son in laws…!
He made a mess while eating and his mouth was covered in sauce,
I handed him a napkin to clean it and he took out his phone and in it
he checked and cleaned it…!
From an outside observers pov you would think that he was a medium
built man wearing a shirt and pants working 9 to 5,
earning good money,
travelling by metro and trying to conserve energy and helping nature…
But,
As soon as all of it was over,
He would go to his real self,
and become this person who would be unrecognisable from
what he was…!
The type of warning I give to all those who are seeking people and looking for partners who would complete them…!
The story remains incomplete because that is where I draw a line,
Only when a person shows efforts of change,
There is a need for your interference…!
If not,
you must not go out of your way to get them to change…!
Cheers 🥂
Love Waakiye 🤍
Waakiye 
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